Archive for October, 2009

I wish I could take credit for this, but credit where credit is due:  Anakin once again hits one out of the ballpark. To summarize his post as a relationship tip, I might word it thusly: “Find out if she understands Grace.”

Out and about

Posted: October 9, 2009 in Commentary

Singlextianman is at large in the world; the Southern Hemisphere to be imprecise.    On a personal note, I wonder if I will be returning to Asia in the coming year.    

..It so happens that I have seen something in my past travels in Cambodia which I wish to offer for your consideration:    An American televangelist on the TV set in my hotel room, asking for money.    I have seen some things in the place where I am that have put me in mind of that experience. 

..It is very easy to hold things up and say “see, look at this… look at this.  Tsk. Tsk.”    It is also very easy to say something like “it’s not my problem; not my watch.”  (Which very likely is true).  

Love covers.  And love also reveals.    The Christian witness is not one of being silent about things in the fellowship which ought not to be.   Neither is it one of seeing only that which is in need of adjustment or setting right; or setting aside.

I just wish to encourage you to not lose heart; and to be of good cheer.   He has overcome the world.  Your faith is not rooted in the behaviours of others.  Be mindful of how you look as well.

Credo #81: Do not receive shame

Posted: October 9, 2009 in Credo

Certainly the  big-C “Church” is an organization with discipline.  We know from the scriptures that “The Lord chastens those whom He loves.”    We also know that manifestations of the Body of Christ in our own little lives and neighborhoods are made up of people, and that organizations of people both need and prosper with sound leadership and guidance, including proper action when its members create difficulties for the assembly; or even betimes with behaviours that only trouble themselves.    There is disputation with the community of Christian faith as to how to order our assemblies and the degree to which the pastoral and teaching offices have a say (and what they have a say about) in the lives of other believers.

This Credo is one in which I am so concious of my limitations as a thinker and believer.    I wish to recognize those facts that I have stated, yet I wish to impress the balancing counter-point as well; which is also of such extreme importance.   It is particularly true if the believers in your circle are those who are touched with the idea that you, as a Single Christian Man, are somewhat less in standing as a believer because of your marital state.   It is also true for those traditions and understandings which rely heavily upon guilt and social pressure to mold the actions and thoughts of its members.

With all these thoughts and caveats, here is what I am trying to say:  Do not receive shame if you have done nothing shameful.      As an obiter, I will add that if you have done something sinful, the response of the fellowship should rarely, if ever, be to go immediately to the wagging finger.  That is a topic for another post.

Let me reiterate my encouragement to you, expressed slightly differently:  If you have done nothing shameful, do not receive shame.