Pastoral tip #10

Posted: March 24, 2010 in Commentary, For pastors

A single Christian man is not a child by virtue of his singleness; nor is he your child. This is all kind of a crashing non sequitur, of course; but I bid you, pastor, to not consider your own opinion very highly about how you really deliver on this. Find some devious or straightforward way to hear what the single Christian men in your fellowship really think of your behavior towards them. If you are in a leadership capacity, remember that you bear some responsibility for the words and actions of the undershepherds alongside you. If you find that you don’t have many single Christian men to start with (but you vaguely remember some coming through) you might ask yourself this question retroactively.

  1. Larry says:

    Here is what I think of their (pastors in genral) behaviour towards single men.

    Pastors are emipre builders – the larger congregation the better because it means more money, prestige, etc.

    Pastors are threatened by single men – they can’t manipulate single men as they can married men.

    Pastors don’t want single men in their congregation – normal heterosexual men with a strong sex drive.

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