Two to tango; or a favorable book review

Posted: March 25, 2010 in Commentary, Other people's writing

I am brewing a more particularly expressed book review for “Love and War” by John and Stasi Eldredge. However, I wanted to get my thoughts out there about this work since it will be awhile before I can give it the attention it should receive. I have a few niggling complaints with it; inasmuch as by default Eldredge seems to buy into the “married = adult” meme; and is perhaps not as fully expressive as I would like him to be of the idea that women have old natures as well, and that we live in an age and culture where masculinity is suspect; including in some parts of the church.

That having been said, this is one of the finest books of advice on Christian marriage that I have seen in a long time. When I get around to further commentary on this work I will post it in this space. I have given a copy to my son (recently married!) and his bride.

It so happens that I have a degree of skill on the ballroom dance floor.* The dance-naive world has heard the phrase “it takes two to tango” and has grafted onto this a variety of associations that were not originally intended… this is usually expressed as a kind of arched-eyebrows and a wink that expresses something like “well, they both knew exactly what they were doing.” As a meme this is acceptable, but there are those who thus conclude things that are not concludable; but I leave that aside. What the dance-sophisticated understands from this phrase is that while it takes two to dance, it only takes one to stop dancing.

Read this book for insight into helping yourself and your mate keep dancing.
*On a good day with a skilled partner I am only a talented amateur in my chosen forms.


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