Pastoral Tip #9

Posted: August 15, 2010 in For pastors

Some of you are guilty of thinking less of the single Christian man because he isn’t “getting any” from a woman. Stop that. And stop it among your co-laborers on your staff. You ought to be honoring men seeking to walk in celibate holiness.

And some of your married men are not doing this – the holiness bit — for that matter.

  1. The Librarian says:

    Interestingly, single Christian women get the inverse message: celibacy=holiness! The longer the celibacy, the greater the holiness, and the more single Christian men have zero interest in you, maybe because of the holiness. It’s your classic church-y Catch-22 for single women.

  2. pausebetween2notes says:

    it’s a sad situation when double standards are applied.

    celibacy is a gift and while for most of us we won’t get any until we are married, it is something we need to bring it to God and ask for grace to bear. i think more single christians (gals or guys) would be able to bear this with greater grace and strength when they have the support from the christian community.

  3. Anonymous says:

    that is because women have been trained from an early age that their power is inextricably linked to their sexuality(which, unfortunately also can be a liability). Men have been trained, on the other hand, that their socio-sexual prowess and their manhood are inextricably linked as well.

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