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Just once, I would like those egalitarians who think that a man “looking at a woman with lust in his heart” can be divorced by his spouse for that, it being, as they see it, “adultery” ¬†— just once, I’d like to hear them say a man could divorce a woman for the same offense.

I am, perhaps, the only male in North America who does not follow American football; but I do follow a bit of professional baseball. This may have to do with my Sigma personality and an upbringing that involved sandlot baseball and closely following the Detroit Tigers, and running crosscountry (a solitary, lone wolf kind of sport) in my formative years.

Thus; my metaphor…. My virtual acquintance, writing under the psuedonym ‘Amir Larijani’, has written a few pieces that knock the ball out of the park. You will find them here, here, here, and also here.

On a Christian Dating Site…

Posted: January 17, 2012 in Commentary

Seen recently on ChristianCafe: A woman who states that she wants “her man to be an extension of her.”

Seen just now, in response to a Cafe question prompt about how their last relationship ended: “Well, that’s a BIG question isn’t it?? ha! Do you want me to tell you it was on Biblical grounds? If you are THAT type of person to ask this, then we probably won’t be a good match anyway! ūüėČ

I was in recent months at a small group hosted by the fellowship I affiliate with, and met a man who asked me if I was married. I said, “no, divorced. And biblically free.” What does that mean, “biblically free?” He asked me.

These are, of course, outliers. But outliers are useful for marking the frontier, aren’t they?

My virtual travels (after a short season of physical travel in Eastern Europe) cause me to come across this site, with this article. I found much to be gained from staying there a spell. What he says in the linked article goes double or so for single men.

John Immel, who edits the blog “SpiritualTyranny” has put his thinking cap on and written something worth your time to digest. Yes, it is long, and wordy .. but so necessary.

In Credos 37 and in #38 (the latter a link to John Eldedge’s writings) I tried in much feebler fashion to give voice to what Mr. Immel has written recently about specific and recent events in the Sovereign Grace movement.

Please do reflect that in my editing of the material on this blog I have consciously edited with an eye toward making the material purposefully more “generic” than specific. By linking to his essay I feel the need, then, to give a little back story. To boil it down, we have witnessed a church movement go off the rails with their approaches to church life, pastoral authority, and church discipline. Mr. Immel writes about SGM for his own reasons, which I infer have a lot to do with his love for them. I don’t link to his essay out of any specific animus towards SGM church goers or pastors; but I do have animus against the kinds of thinking and actions that are the fruit of their often, but not always, misplaced and misguided theology.

So: The take away is this quote …

“..there is a big difference between being logically consistent and using the tools of logic to create a rational castle that shields men from critical review.”

If you are a single Christian woman wondering where the single Christian men have all gone, you need to deeply reflect on

a) What it means to be a man


b) What it means to a man to be in a place where he feels he must chose between his God given masculinity (which includes his mind) and forbearing with people who “….shield men from critical review…”.

These are not things that are resolved with the gooey, sentimental feeling that comes from singing songs together, which either may or may not be His presence; nor hugs in the parking lot. Men are different.

If you are a single or married Christian man you know in your deepest heart that we are called to be brothers of He who called us brothers. HIS brothers. Reflect on that while your read this essay, which I say is worth your time, even if you are not in a church that acts like this. Some of your brothers are.

Deep down inside, you are looking for your Father.

Doesn’t matter how great your father was or your relationship was or was not with him. Doesn’t matter if you are a father or a grandfather; or not; or if you have connection with your children or grandchildren. That masculine fire inside you is looking for your Father.

I call to your attention this on-line posting by Josh Harris, Senior Pastoral authority at the Sovereign Grace Ministry’s flagship church. Of particular note to me is the acknowledgement of harm done to fellow believers in the area of their approaches to dating.

I have greater issues with some of the methodologies and thinking in the SGM movement than just this, but this is a huge thing.

In my lifetime I have both witnessed and experienced pastoral abuse of the type vaguely referred to insofar as dating and courtship is concerned. I imagine that ministries like and helped in their own way to bring the Holy Spirit’s light — and the light of open discussion — to these things. Time will tell if real change is coming to SGM.

Why comment on these matters again? Because of the way some single Christian men have been treated in some fellowships for things like taking a woman out to eat, or otherwise socializing with her in purity. These things being both sinful and offensive to the man as well as his Father.

Homework: Human Trafficking

Posted: February 1, 2011 in Commentary

Yes … I’ve said I’m on hiatus to seek God and also follow His leading about something a bit.

However I am torqued about something and want to get you rolling on this: ¬† ¬† Many of the claims made by those in ministries who concern themselves with “Human Trafficking” – especially within the US — are simply bogus. ¬†Bogus, as in, “sinful claims that are not supportable.” ¬† ¬† ¬†This has become the “Y2K” or the “satanic ritual abuse” of this decade for some believers, who readily adopt the “script” that gives them a starring role in a play in their minds. *

If you work in “Human Trafficking” – don’t take offense. ¬† ¬† Speak out against the lack of integrity visited upon your fellow believers by others in your domain of service.

Homework for the SXM — and any other believer, for that matter: ¬† ¬†Find out what the FBI really says about Human Trafficking (not what your local anti trafficking ministry says about what the “FBI” says**) and challenge your local anti-trafficking ministry about their views about men if they have not been setting up shelters for them.

*real cases of involuntary trafficking in the States and abroad deserve the moral condemnation that naturally belongs to the slave trade; and ministries that really address this problem deserve our support.

**Hint: ¬† Investigate which gender gets trafficked more, and look for the source of that “100,000 children” number.


Edit: ¬† ¬†Separate and tangential; but relevant: ¬† ¬†Think about men paying — ¬†under the laws and rulings emanating from our Legal System — child support for children that are not theirs; or who labor under crushing burdens of ‘child support’ unjustly laid. ¬† Do these men qualify as slaves? ¬† How about men who have been falsely accused by women, including Christian women, who are not in control of their old natures; and who go about serving time or money because of this?

Still kicking…

Posted: January 22, 2011 in Commentary, Other people's writing

Singlextianman is not absent, and is in fact still alive and kicking.   Still striving as well.    The  Holidays to the present have presented a season of prosperity (lots of overtime Рnot so much time for blogging) and the coming month will see me in Eastern Europe on another adventure.

I wanted to share this and this with you from Pr. Frangipane.

See you in late February with more Credos.      Take care, and consider to pray for me if you think to.



Posted: October 21, 2010 in Commentary, Other people's writing

Read John Immel’s PWNing of Al Mohler. It matters to you because of a) the intellectual and spiritual dry-rot in contemporary Evangelical thought – let’s bawl in fear because of people doing Pilates by another name – and b) you will probably interact with a single Christian woman or two who, hopefully, is learning to be flexible.
Edit: Take this to mean what it says; I am commenting on stretching, breathing, and contemplation. I do not mean to wink at attempts to syncretize pagan and Christian thought; nor minimize the significance of attempting to manufacture “spiritual” experiences; whether that is by Pentecostal hand-clapping rounds, Baptist pulpit-pounding and shreiking, chanting, or many practices found in Transcendental Meditation. I mean to point out that people who have the Holy Spirit in them do not need to be afraid. John’s link correctly points out the absurdity of, say; saying that the “missionary position” in bed for a married couple’s sex life is rendered pagan by virtue of being mentioned in the Kama Sutra. Another example would be the military posture of “parade rest” — is this demonic because it mimics something found in classical yoga movements?